Every woman has had this experience where an ex from their past pops up out of the blue. I always wondered why men do this and I have some ideas but I have no insight into how men think. I always think its funny because the ex always comes back and they have had an Epiphany and realize they miss you or they really want to be with you. I realize women don't pop back up into their exes life after months. Men on the other hand will not speak to you for months or years than all of the sudden pop up. One of my theories on why men always do this when they are lonely, and I think loneliness turns into them trying to figure out why they are lonely. I think that's when they start going through the ex files and then hey try to see who they "think" they are suppose to be with. I truly feel like women don't pop back up in men lives because after a couple of months we are over it, we may try to get back at first but not months down the line. These epiphanies are hilarious because they seemingly come out of nowhere, it's like you haven't spoken to me in months and now you miss me lol. I also think it's easier to go back then to move forward so maybe that's why a ex will pop up. many people have been through it and it seems like they pop in and when they don't get the response they want they pop right back out of your life lol...but I thought you loved me lmao.
On another note I think you can be "friendly" with an ex but definitely not friends, I think that's a bit much. And by friendly I don't mean popping in and out trying to get into someones pants. I mean like I'll hit you up once in the blue and vice versa but nothing on some get back stuff. But I think that's hard to come by because it takes both parties to be on the same page and I think that's rare.
I read something on a friend's twitter page and it said "You will know that you love someone when you want him/her to be happy. Even if that means you're not a part of their happiness". I don't think I totally agree with that statement. I think whether people admit it or not they may want their ex to be happy but they want to be happier. Does that make you a bad person for feeling that way maybe but who cares lol. I mean you don't want your ex to be crying their eyes out but you want to be doing better or at least think your doing better. And maybe some people agree with that statement and maybe they are a better person than me and others.
I was talking to Brandon yesterday about breaks up and whats the standard amount of time someone should be sad about a breakup, he is one of the ppl that agreed with the statement above. And I had to poke holes all up in that argument. He said something should be in a slump for about a month, so than the questions reminds what if they are only sad for 2 weeks wouldn't that piss you off and he said yeah. So in my eyes no matter whether he wants to admit it or not he wants to be better off than the person he breaks up with. People want to think they can be highly righteous and noble but when it all boils down to it everyone is in a competition with their ex.
Okay I know a bunch of ramblings but if I can't do it here where can I...
